"Friends With Benefits" Sounds Like A Health Insurance Program

Can lovers remain friends?

 

No, but May makes me wonder if there isn't something else our relationship could settle into apropos. Feelings are pretty sticky in a gross way you would expect, like syrup or childrens hands, and it isn't often after the playground tumults of lust and love that I find much in the debris of interpersonals. Yet in the spaces I thought her absence would leave vacant and yearning, instead there is the same respect and adoration for her company as before. Instead I'm asking my phone out loud, I-Wonder-How-She's-Doing, then text to ask out of no obligation other than I'd like to know. 

 

"If that's what you want, it's fine," She said. "But I know you, and I want to make sure we stay friends."

 

There's no point in stating the obvious, like those trust exercises when somone falls backwards into a persons arms. It's not the height that makes me nervous, but why you can't just take my word that I believe when you say you'll catch me. I'd unconsciously decided to become defensive because of it. To a monster the norm is monstrous, and my first instinct was to reject any resemblance of feelings becoming stationary or steady.  I can't stand to sit down, am too odd to ever be even. Give me my coffee boiling hot or cold enough to make my teeth clatter. Let my experiences, and not my telling of them, be exaggerate and exhausting. A life lived in extremes is the only life worth living- I'd sooner rather die right this instant than one day look back at all my sufferings, loss, and achievements thinking "I guess it was okay."

 

"Friends, right?" She said again.

 

May is stubborn in her pleasance, and my heart is rendered incapable of offending her love in any form. I remember the spiritual muck she saw me lying in, the hands that helped hang away the hang-ups keeping me grounded six feet deep. My life is owed to her, and whatever she should ever desire, my very bloody hands will find the way to deliver it to her. 

 

"Friends," I repeated, but more like a question. 

 

I don't know what the word entails. Will I be a weekend ruin with her, damning our souls and morality down Amsterdam chasing thighs and feelings? Another Roger barking up my phone and timeline on Saturday nights, pseudo-social sojourns with dim girls and coworkers, howling at the moon because we're too young to be this lonely. Or will she only call me when her boyfriend is out of town and she's bored, looking to lose herself in the arms and eyes of someone else that isn't hopelessly decimate in an unhappy relationship? (Here's Looking At You, Kid.) Or maybe she means the kind of people that only reach out when they need something, like someone else to double date because his girlfriend thinks you're too ugly and grumpy to make a move on her or suggest a four-way.  

 

"Friends," She said again, this time softly under her breath. Then something went soft in her eyes that seemed to add

 

"I can tell you need one of those."

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Comments (3)

  1. GovMisdirection

    Great title! Ex-lovers can be friends and lovers only if the mind games stop. If one is still hung up on the other, face reality and walk. Being called a ‘friend’ is a cm. above being thought of as a brother.

    April 04, 2017
    1. morningafter7

      I agree – only if the mind games stop.

      April 04, 2017
  2. towlparkjournal

    Of course anything can work. You just have to think it can. Look at every zealot you see. Look at every non-involved person you see. It is all just a choice, in the end.

    April 05, 2017